Sex & Different Types of Men

Groups of People

The Premise: A Man has the Urge to have Sex without Commitment. 

The Deal Breaker:

Woman 1: I only consent for money or love (most prostitutes).

Woman 2: I only consent for love ( this could be through marriage only or the equivalent, a committed relationship).

Woman 3: I only consent for money (typically, very hardened prostitutes).

Woman 4: I only consent for attention/fun (deep down, this type actually craves love and wants to consent only for love, but she mistakenly believes that attention will compensate for love).

The Response:

Man 1 “Mr. Fairness”: I will pay a woman to be able to sleep with her so she gets something to satisfy her and so do I. I am only comfortable if she is comfortable, and she is not demeaned nor exploited in this transaction — it is fair to her.

Man 2 “Mr. Entitlement”: I will pay a woman to have my way with her. Mr. Entitlement has the ‘decency’ to realize the she should get paid, but is indifferent to the woman’s overall well being. For him, he is a paying customer and he is entitled to service. *Note: Some Mr.Entitlements despise the fact they have to pay — why can’t women just serve our sexual needs for free!

Man 3 “The Predator”: I will use physical force to take a woman (against her will) to get sex. Zero empathy.

Man 4 “The Wholesome Man”: I would never just sleep with a woman for sex only and then just leave her once I satisfied my urge. She is not an object to use, she is human with feelings like my mother, sisters, aunts, etc. *He grew up with love and/or strong moral structure. She is someones daughter, wife, mother, etc. He has empathy for women.*

Man 5 “The Wholesome Client”: I will pay her for her time, and do whatever she is comfortable with. If she is inclined and the feelings are right, I would love to commit to her (because I want love and commitment above all).  I respect her as a human being and would never want to make her feel neglected. But If she only desires a business arrangement and she is not open to love, then I will politely remain as a loving client.

Man 6: “The Monster”I will neither pay her nor love her. But since women wont accept that, I will promise her love and protection so she will give me her body. The naive women, who have a poor concept of love (usually Daddy issue’s), are the easiest to dupe with the “I love you” trick. Finesse them hoes! *The Monster then ‘high-fives’ his fellow soulless comrades in online forums, or he gets reassurance in his beloved ‘rap’ beats that glorify the exploitation of women.* This “Monster” type of man is very dangerous for women, because they appear charming and are often are very gifted in manipulation (ie: knowing exactly how to make a woman trust them).


*PS: Yes, women can be manipulators too — read until the end..

The Big Question – Why?

What makes some women only want money when dealing with men? What makes some men use violence against women? What makes some men have great respect and admiration for women?

The Answer: Circumstances (Society, Upbringing, Influences)

A great quote I once heard was, “Different cultures produce different kinds of people.” (Wade Davis). This was in reference to an indigenous Amazonian tribe whose cultural values instilled people to protect Mother Nature. This was compared to the cultural values of the West, where perpetual growth and consumerism teach one to indirectly harm/destroy Mother Nature.

Imagine a culture where the family structure is strong, community is strong, the cultural music is about unity, love and wholesome masculinity/femininity — the cultural values are about “we”, thriftiness, kindness, discipline, gratitude — young children grew up on wholesome proverbs/wisdom from their elders — what sort of person does this produce? 

Imagine a culture where young teens are influenced to hate themselves for whom they are, whom are told to focus on “I” instead of “we”, whom are given zero or contradicting guidance on life and how to be a man/woman, whom are told their body parts need to be altered, whom are told their worth is their accumulation of material objects, whom are told that the opposite sex is to be feared and doubted (ie: feminism & misogyny), whom are told they must fend for themselves and the only means of survival/belonging is chasing money — if you’re a woman, your value is in your body parts and that’s how men have been told to value you — if you’re a man, your value in how much money you have and you’re subjected to endless sexual imagery to weaken your ambition to nothing — what sort of person does this produce?

Many societal influences, in the West, are intentionally aimed at destruction of the soul, destruction of the family and unity as a whole. We have men and women who are pitted against each other — so what is the result when men cannot trust women, and vice versa? What happens in a hyper-sexualized society when women are reduced to body parts and men are taught to view women as just our bodies? What happens when pious men and women are told to keep searching for something “better” than what they already have? This is a breeding ground for hate, apathy, narcissism, sociopathy. 


Laila, The One Who Cheats Men

When I meet people with a heartless mentality, I wonder: how did they become that way? Even I need to reflect on myself, because I have made many mistakes. I once knew a woman who viewed ALL men as the same: to her they were Womanizers, Cheaters, Liars. Ironically, she was also an escort. She became heartless to the extent that she would deceive and manipulate all men she encountered for money. She placed all her worth in her appearance. By doing so, she reaffirmed her belief that all men wanted to use her because she essentially attracted the same type of men. **Ladies, when you invest only into your appearance, you will attract the worst kind of men with the sole intention to sleep with you and discard you** So how did she become this way? She once broke down and poured her heart out to me. I learnt that she had been severely hurt, exploited and neglected by false love — she had been duped by a “Monster” (Man #6). She was once an innocent girl, whom only wanted love, and then she became depressed and suicidal, and she was convinced that all men were like the “Monster.” And thus, she reacted by believing her value was only in her body parts. After that, she attracted men who only wanted her body — once or twice and that’s it. They used her, so she used them — that was her motto. I knew she was hurting, deep down, for being used as an object, but she could not stop objectifying herself. She was convinced that she needed more plastic surgery or sexy photos to find the love she deeply craved deep down — in fact, by doing so, she was pushing herself further away from wholesome love. Nevertheless I understood why she was hurting, because I know the feeling of neglect. All escorts come from some form of neglect. The difference between her and I was that we simply reacted in a different way.  I realized that not all men are the same — different types of men existed. Decent men exist, men who valued women for their inner beauty above all. I made a conscious effort to stay away from men who exhibited shallow values. Unfortunately, it is not always easy to tell who is genuine or not, as soulless men and women often wear a cloak of ‘charm’ to entice their prey.

The point of Laila’s story is to highlight how she became heartless because she, herself, was hurt, exploited and used. Ironic — the same rule can be applied to heartless men: society & circumstances can turn people to become heartless and apathetic. 


Finally, this is a great video for women who have been neglected — from an Islamic perspective, it reiterates the point on why women resort to objectifying themselves when they are deprived of wholesome love.

To My Readers, both Men and Women: Which one are you? What is your Stance?


Filed under Facts About the Sex Industry, The Escorting Business, Types of Clients, Types of Prostitutes

9 responses to “Sex & Different Types of Men

  1. C Alan

    I see myself more as #4. I see a couple of women who are older (wiser) and generally enjoy a GFE with them. We enjoy sex together, often I think they enjoy it more than I, but at 60+, these things do not always happen for me. I enjoy the journey of intimacy, warmth, kissing and mutual bodily exploration. I respect them as women who have needs just as I have. Generally, I have only looked towards older women, and I feel my choice has been reasonably good so far.
    I did stop seeing a woman whom I could see, did not respect or like men, and saw them merely as a means for money. I became wary of her motives and could no longer enjoy time with her. If I was only after a “wet hole” and once only, then it would have been OK.
    About half of the time I spend with the women I see is lying naked in each others arms, caressing each other and just talking. At the end of the session, if I walk away with a warm fuzzy feeling and a smile on my face, I am content.

    • escortdiary

      @C Alan,

      Thank you for sharing.

      You crave intimacy, something with meaning… not just a quick act of meaningless sex. Intimacy brings about a feeling of tranquility.


  2. Sweet Sahar,
    We are waiting to read newer posts from you. Ones where u are hopefully healed and happy.

    Hugs xo

  3. I found watching this video really interesting. I feel that my father did very much love me and value me. Yet I realized while watching the video that my mother never felt loved enough by my father. She was always seeking more attention and expression from him and resenting him for what she felt he was not doing. He would bury himself in the newspaper or in his work and sometimes even be so unattentive to my mom that he would start to drive the car away without realizing that she wasn’t even inside yet (in the back seat). Perhaps he found her emotional needs overwhelming. I think I have inherited that legacy and there is always a feeling I have that I will never recieve enough love from men.

    • escortdiary

      Hi Dear,
      Interesting points. Indeed our parental/childhood experiences shape how we think, behave in our adult life. One can only change these traits with introspection.


  4. I hope you are well…just checking in on you…

  5. A John

    I see myself in #1 and #5. I tried on persona #2 once a few months into seeing independent escorts; it was the worst session I ever had. I learned – confirmed – that I am who I am, and that trying the approach I’ve seen other guys describe in review forums doesn’t work for me. No woman will ever just be a collection of warm wet holes for me.

    Why both #1 and #5? Generally, the first time I see someone new to me, I take the #1 mindset. I’m looking for sex with a woman and her looks, menu, and price point simply match what I’m looking for, and no more. I make sure I am thoroughly scrubbed, shaven, and on time. I put the gift down up front so she has no doubts. I’m polite, gentle, and respectful. I double check boundaries in case I’ve misremembered something in her ads or in case somebody lied about what she does in a review. I don’t seek out anything in a first session other than good yet fairly conventional sex and polite chit chat. I want her to feel comfortable with me – safe, respected, valued for providing good service – but her pleasure and her emotional needs, while not ignored, are very much secondary because I’m paying.

    If things go well and I feel like she is a good value for the money and time I spent, I’ll probably repeat. If, in addition to value, I also sense some chemistry, I slide into persona #5. Typically what happens is that for my first two or three visits, the hour together is all about the sex, with a short break for banter between rounds when I gather myself up. But if I find that during repeat sessions, I’m enjoying our chat after round one and never get around to getting it on again before time is up, that tells me we have some chemistry.

    When that happens, it’s great, and that opens up – for me – interest in multi hour sessions, meals, overnights. If things go well with all of that – usually takes a few times to figure out – I ask for off the clock meet ups for meals or drinks or a movie without any related session before or after. Basically a friendship. If she jumps at it, great. If not, I know it’s really just business with me, and I’ll respect that boundary.

    So I currently see two providers in this “wholesome client” mode. I am quite fond of both of them, in different ways for different reasons. If either one wanted to make it a 100% non-business relationship, I would do it.

    I do have to note this qualification on #5: I am not seeking “commitment” in the way it is typically described. Commitment as in we discuss and agree to – make a commitment – certain expectations around how we will treat each other and the thing we are doing? Yes. If we can agree to the rules and we each represent that we will follow them, having only our word to each other – “pinky swear” – that’s a commitment I can do. Commitment as in sexual monogamy? Never. I’ve tried it too many times and I just can’t do it. Never again will I commit to sexual monogamy; never again will I expect my partner to do so; I won’t accept anyone telling me she will be monogamous even if I’m not and she’s ok with it. I’m just tired of lying and tired of being lied to.

    Great blog.

  6. A

    I’m a wholesome man. My wife of 20 years had multiple affairs for no apparent reason other than the thrill and the love of cash, flash and bling. She destroyed lives and I live raising our two sons aged 4 and 8 to try come out as wholesome men. I feel the urge to be with prostitutes because of the simplicity of the transaction but I never have…what to do? How do I keep my dignity and raise two wholesome young men…?

    • Warsaw

      Your comment is old, but just do it. Seeing escorts won’t destroy your dignity nor cause you to raise your sons less ‘wholesome’.

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