What Makes a Successful Escort?

It’s a hard question. A common misconception is that only beautiful girls make money. Yet beauty is very subjective. And more importantly, many women do not realize that outer beauty, alone, is simply not enough to become a wholesomely desirable woman. Moreover, no matter how desirable a woman may be, one can never appeal to all. Being successful and making good money are very temporal for an escort, and very susceptible to fluctuation. Even when women are able to make lots of money for a period of time, it does not mean they are necessarily successful with clients nor does it mean they are promised a successful future. There are a lot of escorts who may appear to be ‘successful’ for the moment, yet what outsiders do not see is that, behind the scenes, she may very well have little prospects for the future. In my opinion, being a successful escort means establishing a good regular clientele and working towards an alternative career, because this equates to long term success in a more emotionally wholesome environment.

Generally, girls who make lots of money are hustlers. Which means they chase money at all the multiple scales of ‘high-class’ escorting, and they essentially make escorting their life (ie: they work full-time and are often willing to work at all hours of the day). However, while working full-time can equate to lots of money, I’d argue that working constantly is a recipe for short-term success only.

Working full-time is not easy by any means, and there are typically dire implications. Firstly, a woman may make a lot of money for a period of time, yet it does not mean she will continue to be successful endlessly. What makes an escort successful versus how much money she’s made are not the same thing.  One woman I knew (who’s in the industry) lived quite a lavish lifestyle. You’d think that she’s making $1000+ US dollars per hour. But in reality, she does a mixture of jobs catering to clients of all rate-scales. She works in a brothel-like establishment in the day-time. This pays her approximately $240 per hour (the business takes $70 dollars.), which seems very low. Then she advertises and does private out-calls/incalls for a much higher price. She works every day, and like many other full-time escorts, she, sadly, use drugs and alcohol to lessen the emotional impact. Yes, one can make lots of money by working full-time, but at what cost? Short-term goals of making fast-money often have negative implications, physically and mentally.  I cannot relay how many escorts I met who sacrificed their mind, body, and soul for quick, fast money — from extremely short-lived beauty queens to drug addicted, disfigured women in a very short span. Drug/substance addictions and the resulting physical/mental damage is a reality for many prostitutes who are not careful in how they work within this industry. Tragically, many women who end up in this tragic fate had no option of choice — too often women get lured by mass exploitation and false promises within the sex industry. Aside from being susceptible to drugs and alcohol, working too often can also make an escort harden, or burn out, more faster. In other words, working too frequently will make her experiences with clients more rigid, and therefore her chances of establishing wholesome, regular clientele will be stipulated. One must humble themselves and realize that many women are not given the option to work less — everyone has different circumstances. I personally recommend working less, if that’s an option. Once a woman can become established as an independent escort, I recommend working less at higher rates to a select clientele. And finally, I stress the importance of balancing one’s life with clients and other things they enjoy (outside of their work).

*I should also note that many ‘high-class’ escorts give off the facade of wealth/luxury, when in reality they are spending all of their income on designer goods to promote their image. She might be carrying Chanel bags, but it doesn’t imply she’s successful or wealthy. Ironically, the rule I learnt from my observations is that anyone who makes tremendous effort to boast of their ‘success’ or material gains is, in fact, using boasting to mask their deep insecurities and low self-esteem. It is very easy for an escort to have a low sense of self, as wealth and ‘success’ with clients are extremely fragile. In my opinion, a successful escort is one who is moderate in her spending and humble; she saves a lot or invests into a home and/or education, because she’s mindful that she cannot sell herself forever.

Extremely high-priced girls are not necessarily more ‘worthy’ than a girl with more moderate hourly rates. In fact, as mentioned, many escorts are often working at multiple rate scales. For example, the same escort who advertises for $800.00 dollars per hour is also likely working for $200.00 an hour. The escorting industry simply exploits the fact that some men will pay a lot of money for a woman who is apparently “higher” class. The difference in price is not always reflective of the quality of the girl, but rather it is simply marketing and the overall economics of the particular city. However, quality can exist. There are women who set their rates higher than average, and can provide a more ‘quality’ experience as they are more selective with their clientele and, perhaps, work less frequently — in all cases, from the clients end, seeing escorts is always a gamble.

In general, most women I met are catering to two types of clientele: (1) clients who see private/independent escorts only, and (2) ‘brothel rats,’ clients (as they called them), or men who visit brothel establishments only. Overall, escorts do not all work in the same manner, and many women establish their own preferences on where, when and how to work. What is comfortable for one woman is different than other. Usually, women work in scenarios related to their level of comfort. For instance, a lot of ‘elite’ escorts prefer the brothel/agency settings rather than working independently.

For myself, personally, I have never been a hustler in the sense of working full-time. I have always worked part-time as an escort, at my own leisure and comfort. Yet despite working part-time, I make a generous income for working so infrequently, and I am satisfied with having enough to live comfortable, and establishing some savings gradually. I don’t want to ‘hustle’ and work full-time as a professional escort, because I have seen how so many escorts over-work themselves and resultantly burn out. Then again, I have to be so thankful that I can have the luxury of being able to work less and live relatively well — some women aren’t as lucky, and are sort of compelled to work full-time.

What Girls are Most in Demand?

From my observations, there are a few characteristics that drive men wild. Yet again, one must remember that desires are so diverse, so I always recommended escorts to be themselves.
A stunningly beautiful girl who’s new to the sex industry or a particular place (or city) will likely be popular at first. However, once she’s slept with the men who were curious about her …she will only continue to be successful if she has the brains or sexual confidence to match.

For the most part, clients want good sex and good companionship. I’ve seen many beautiful girls who get overly confident in their first months, only to be shocked why they don’t have any regulars. Outer beauty, alone, has nothing to do with establishing a true connection with a worthy, wholesome client.

Another interesting thing I’ve observed is the POWER of chemistry and pheromones. I truly believe this, as I have observed this endlessly. Working in an establishment, I’ve seen girls who don’t really get picked, but suddenly one day they are constantly being chosen. During the days where I worked in an establishment, I’ve noticed that certain times during my monthly cycle that men were dying to devour me. For instance, there are times I barely wear makeup and feel sleepy, yet every man I meet wants to book with me. I could be completely covered up, yet somehow men detected my monthly ‘ripeness.’ I recall memories of working where every client was eagerly licking, kissing and tasting my whole body — as if my body was emitting an intoxicating, delicious scent. Typically this is around my ovulation period, and perhaps I am feeling most horny at this time (somehow the men can detect it — the heat of my body).

Likewise, at times when I was extremely stressed, I was no longer the ‘belle de jour’ at the brothel. The first times I started to falter in my bookings (otherwise known as burnout) was when I started quarrelling often with my ex-fiance. Most of the quarrelling was because I wasn’t sure the ‘normal’ relationship route was actually what I wanted. The constant fighting made me either not sleep at all, over oversleep….which gave birth to dark circles and puffy eyes when I was 22. Stress is the WORST recipe for being an escort. It does not matter how beautiful you are, but if you are stressed and needing to make money (and feeling animosity towards men at the same time)….don’t even bother!

I remember meeting a really gorgeous escort a few months ago. She was new the industry. She was quite attractive. I told her that she would be really popular because she was quite pretty. To her dismay, she only had 1 client during her 7 hour shift. This shows that STRESS alone can kill off the chemicals that men are attracted too. She told me she was desperate to make money, as she had a child and was extremely stressed about her money situation. I told her she needs to relax and feel good…..and that hopefully next shift her ease will reflect more clients. In essence, chemicals are very powerful in attraction.

Who are the most popular girls?

Again, it’s a perception. A girl can be popular for periods of time, but as mentioned before…even the most beautiful girl will go from being popular to just having her regulars and a consistent flow. But again, it really depends, as all escorts are unique individuals. I, myself, was one of the ‘popular’ girls at the brothel, which means I was often chosen by clients. As an independent escort, the dynamics are different, because now, I choose from the pool of clients who contact me. I am always thankful that I have been a desired woman in this industry. As clients would tell me, I have both beauty and intellect. I am chosen for both reasons, but at other times it’s one or the other. Apart from my admired big boobs and shapely backside, I retain a bit of elegance in my mannerisms, dress and speech also, so many clients express how this attracted them and made them feel at ease. Presentation plays an important role in what sort of clients an escort will attract. If I had a rude personality and presented myself as purely flesh, I would certainly attracted a different clientele (the kind I wouldn’t like).

Girls who are quite sought after can be many things. One popular lady I knew was an escort I developed a crush on. I remember the first day meeting her and thinking she wasn’t that pretty. She was in her 30’s, and was quite popular with respectable clients. Once I heard her beautiful voice and getting to see her mannerisms, I became mesmerized by her — I had never met a woman like her before. She was different from anyone I had ever met, and for the first time in my life I found an escort I could admire.  After getting to know her, I found her to be strikingly beautiful (inside and out). I could see what drew men to her…she had such an intoxicating persona, genuine and loving. She was extremely intelligent, sincerely sweet, and I suppose her age gave her a natural sex appeal (her and I shared clients, so I discovered she was quite ‘tuned’ with her sexuality). This woman actually changed my entire concept of beauty. Initially, I hardly noticed her, but after seeing the beauty of her inner-self, I became immensely attracted to her in every sense. What society tells us to desire in terms of beauty is NOT necessarily beauty, especially if it’s only shallow.

In my city, the most popular girls vary. I’ve noticed there is always a huge demand for rare women who aren’t typically found in the business: For instance, if there is a lack of certain ethnic escorts in some areas, then these women can be popular due to their rareness. Again, it truly varies, because there is so much diversity in what is desirable within the sex industry.

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16 responses to “What Makes a Successful Escort?

  1. K

    I’m Punjabi and wondering which place you’re referring to in your last paragraph. Please let me know!

    • escortdiary

      Well, any Western country is good for Indian women, so long she has a certain level of sex appeal. The reason is because Indian women are extremely rare in the sex industry. However, I can’t say ALL are successful, because it really comes down to her attitude towards doing this work.

      • Haha, maybe that’s why I’m successful, never thought about that ;).
        And yes, attitude is more important than looks (although looking a bit attractive is essential). I know I’m good, because most of my clients are regulars :). Am I bragging? Anyway, it feels good when a job is well done….

      • escortdiary

        Thanks for sharing dear,

        I can tell you are popular. You have a sweet personality which comes out in your writing. Good personality + being attractive + being genuinely sexual/sensuous equals a very desirable escort.

      • Ati

        i m 26y old from spain i want be came a escort but i don know to much about thats can u help me here in spain

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  4. Andrew

    “Presentation plays an important role in what sort of clients an escort will attract. If I had a rude personality and presented myself as purely flesh, I would certainly attracted a different clientele (the kind I wouldn’t like)”

    As in life so it’s the same for Escort’s, beauty IS skin deep. What makes a woman beautiful is indefinable and physical beauty alone may not make an Escort popular, take it from me I know why a Client visits a girl ONCE as opposed to visiting the same girl SEVEN times and it’s nothing more complicated than sexual attraction and liking each other. You see there’s this magic word in the world of in-call Escorting called CONNECTION, if you connect with her on an emotional level enjoy her company then she’ll maybe be the only Escort you’ll ever see again imperfections and all, she worries that her boobs droop and are ‘saggy’ I couldn’t care less they’re wonderful, so she hasn’t the bust of a supermodel, no matter beauty is Yes in the eye of the beholder.

    I’ve been thinking how intimacy comes about, it’s certainly not an advertised service so how about Nursing? I’d say there is much in common between Escort and Hospital Nurse, seriously and it has nothing to do with dressing up and kinky sex, a good Escort possesses similar qualities to a good Nurse which could make her popular with Client’s and it does happen men do fall in love with Nurses! If a Nurse is friendly a ‘people person’ looking after his needs more than she has to (not sexual) is attentive giving the impression that he means something to her, dotes on him cares for him then he could well become attached and I’d say a good Escort has similar qualities, appear the center of his world and the result IS she could well have herself a Regular presents and all, how many Nurses Escort I wonder? But I don’t think a woman could fake friendship certainly not over and over again however good an actress she is, men aren’t stupid they can intuitively tell whether a woman likes him or not, she has to be a nice woman.

    Defining success isn’t a difficult one, Escorts say success is making money and being happy, marketing could denote what type of work she’ll attract happiness isn’t for a Client to guess. Another route to success? If an Escort’s website shows nude photographs with legs akimbo revealing everything then I have a guess what sort of man will call and maybe ‘sex and go’ appeals, it’s what many many men want. But if an Escort’s photo’s exclude her face, she wears nice underwear says she’s attractive then that’s good enough for me shallow man that I am, I HAVE guessed correctly this way btw and met lovely young women however Forum men disagree, they don’t trust Escort’s unless they can see her face and body so ‘you pays your money you makes your choice’, advertise yourself as a Porn Star and you will attract men who love Porn, but which Escorting route will make more money and which will make her happier, stressful tiring ‘Connection’ or cold men giving her a right good seeing to? I’ve no idea.

    So there you go a Clients view of successful Escorting if a little shallow

    As an aside chemicals secreted from human bodies is an interesting one, other female mammals give off a scent when they’re on heat so why not the human female mammal? I’ve come across red condoms before which I read means something, in fact I’ve been fascinated with this question ‘is she menstruating?’ by the Law of percentages I must have given oral to a woman on her period which like I said fascinates me but I couldn’t tell the difference.

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  6. Misty Blue

    Love yr blog. I’m a sex worker in a few brothels and now about to take the next step step and try escort work…Yr blog was nothing tht I didnt l know already hwevr, it was fastastic tht wht you wrote was reiteration for me.
    I love “doing the job” as I put it..and it is totally true when u say..it is not all about outer beauty, it is also about yr attitude, your presentation and also a big factor is the type of service one provides.
    I was like the girl who looked absolutely stunning on her first night on..but I was nervous as hell…understandable..so of course I didnt get a booking until the last hour..had to wait 9 hrs to get tht booking..haha!! The Madam on the nite took me aside and said..”you know tht you hv everything going for you but Ive been listening to yr intros and you are too nervous, you need to up the anti”. Anyway, I stuck with it, got confident and Im doing well. I hv my regulars bcoz I know I give good service. I treat them very well in the room by making them feel comfortable. I am also a rarity in the industry as far as ethnicity. .Im exotic. In saying.. just being exotic wasnt enough..a mixture of confident, sexiness, sassy and a bit of spunk has helped me to do well..hopefully all of this can help me go a step further…!!! Thanks for yr blog..love it..xxx

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  8. bexy

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  9. Anna

    Hi! Love your blog and your perspective on this job;you seem very realistic about all of its impliances. I have a question,as an ex-escort who did not do very well 🙂 What do you think about London as a place to practice this job? I tried to find a brothel or club ,but all I can find is agencies. I would love to move there and try again,but I don’t know where to begin. Thank you !

    • Akbar

      @Anna
      It is ironic that :
      1. you are appreciating the realistic approach of escortdiary about all the (dreadful) implications
      2. you say you are ex-escort (who probably left this job line) and

      Still you want to be back in brothels and face all the consequences which might inflict much more suffering in due course of time compared to any short-term (material) gains? Its your call but i suggest you weigh everything before making a decision.
      I could have said “Oh it is a free world and you are an independent, beautiful and empowered young woman who can do wonders as escort, men would be grateful to have your services, they will treat you as a queen”…………yet it would not be intellectually honest opinion, for the reality is often not as beautiful as it seems. once the sufferings start to set in, people are no where to share them with you.
      Owning and managing a brothel is a crime in England and you are unlikely to find an open brothel in London. That explains why business is done through agencies. Nevertheless sex business exists in every nook and corner of the world so you might try your luck if at all that’s what you decide for yourself.
      Regards
      A

  10. Nicholas

    Firstly; my apologies for drawing you to a six-year-old post, but I’m particularly interested in a topic you discuss here at the moment…

    “[…]as if my body was emitting an intoxicating, delicious scent.”

    Even from the point of view of someone who has never set foot in a brothel, this has become aparent to me, as have the associated behavioural changes. However, I’m not entirely convinced that the pheromones are female-exclusive as your link with ovulation may suggest, although it’s certainly tempting to infer…

    I’m male, and I will admit to keeping a dairy of days when I thought I ‘smelled different’. It’s hard to describe; it’s a nice smell, but at the same time it’s annoying that it is so strong. Yet, no one else seems to be able to smell it. I’ve even asked people to sniff me (yes I’m weird / talking about close family here), and they said there was nothing strange about my smell. Interestingly, on days when I wrote that I could notice this particular smell, I also noticed that girls would be much more willing to chat to me in the street, sit with me on the train, smile at me randomly, etc. In contrast, on days when I thought I produced no smell at all, trying to make casual communication would often result in disinterest or even annoyance. I’d be interested to know what you make of that.

  11. Amerie

    How can I go about looking for reputable brothels in my area? How do enter the industry being brand new? In NC?

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