The services that sex workers provide varies. A minority of working girls are specialists in fetish services, also known as Dominatrixes. Every “mistress” has her own rules, and many of these fetish specialists do not offer sex as part of their services. Equally, a lot of men seeking fetish services are not seeking sex. Personally, I am ‘normal’ service provider most of the time, which means I have conventional sex with men. But occasionally, I perform fetishes for clients.
I have beaten men with leather straps/whips. I have punished men. I have spat on their face. I have made them worship my feet, high-heels, boots, bottom, breasts, or stockings (of course, this was their request). Do I enjoy it? Well, depending on the circumstances it can turn me on sexually with clients. For instance, I love men to worship my body. In terms of giving physical punishment, I more enjoy it in my personal life. Initially when I first started this work, I thought fetish clients were weird and strange, and I couldn’t do it. Now, I often wish I could be a fetish specialist.
From my observations, a lot of fetish clients are powerful men. In their daily lives, they are accustomed to giving orders and telling people what to do. So, when they visit an escort they behave the exact opposite: they want to be totally helpless. They want to kneel at a woman’s feet and be vulnerable and submit to her desires. In other words, it’s all about her pleasure (or at least that’s the idea).
One of my clients overseas was memorable. He was a young guy who usually made a 2 hour appointment. Sex was not his goal. He always brought beautiful lingerie, designer high heels and stockings with him. He wanted me, the escort, to dress him in women’s lingerie and high heels. After dressing, he wanted me to torture him mildly. He wanted to please me too. I tried analyzing his bizarre fetish, yet the concept of a man dressed in women’s lingerie wanting to be humiliated by beautiful woman boggled my mind. Gender constructions of masculinity place a lot of pressure on men to behave in certain ways — a lot of men reject these ideals placed upon them, yet sadly it often has to remain secret as Modern societies are not so welcoming to feminine heterosexual men.
In my personal life, I enjoy fetishes. I like to mix mild pain with pleasure with men I love. I must emphasize that this is strictly limited to someone I love. I’m dominant in the sense that I get what I desire, and my lover caters to my needs (not that I take control physically per say). I equally like inflicting mild pain, while receiving it depending on my mood. I’m what is known as a femdom, because my lovers know my pleasure and satisfaction is paramount over their own…, and I love the idea of them serving me. The idea of him putting my manicure feet in his mouth drives me wild…I love to be spoiled. Or, like with my ex used to love, sitting on his face. However, I love to spoil my love too, and take him to the edge….to the point where our bodies are shivering.
If I had to reveal one fantasy of mine…it would be a young guy (younger than me) who wants to be told what to do. I am not dominating him physically, but I am giving commands. Thus, he is submitting to my desires and pleasing me. If he succeeds, he will be rewarded royally.
As the Kama Sutra says: there must be variety in love sport…